Once upon a time, there was a girl who loved clothes. She bought, and bought, and bought. At one time, she was ridiculously skinny and then her closet really bulged with a million different outfits and ensembles. Some of it was fun, and some of it was funky. Her closet was full of skirts and dresses, and comfy t-shirts and jeans. Nothing seemed to really match, but it was all cute. Sort of. But still, she bought, and bought, and bought.
Until things changed. She got bigger. She stopped dedicating money to shopping. She started working in a different career where she needed to be comfy-casual, not cute and stylish. And then? She became a teacher, and somehow had to straddle the line between being cute, youthful and comfy, while also being adult and appropriate for work. So, style became something on the back burner. Clothes became whatever was clean, easiest, and semi-cute, instead of an expression of what she felt and wanted to be inside.
This is about me.
It’s true. I LOVE clothes. I really do. But let’s be real: who wants to have little, itty-bitty, size 2 clothes and then have to get big clothes? NOT ME. Also? Being a massage therapist for a year? Not exactly conducive to cute style—it’s all about comfort, baby. And then teaching? I refuse to wear denim dresses and wooden apple necklaces, thanks. But, I am the youngest on campus and need to “establish my credibility” as an adult, dressed appropriately for the big-girl job I have.
So, my style has been a bit all over the place. I’m not SO bad—I realize that this entry makes me sound like the perfect subject for “What Not To Wear.” My friends assure me that nope, it’s not that bad. Still, as I work to be a healthier me, I want to work on really creating my own personal style. Am I alone here? Isn’t it difficult to manage style in your twenties? Sometimes, I look at my students, and think they look so cute—but I KNOW I need to differentiate myself from them. Other times, I look at the “work clothes” and think, “That’s adorable! But what about when I want to go out with my friends, or on a casual date?” Most of all, I like to think I embody a lot of different things: I work in an environment that demands professionalism, but I also like art, music, bright colors and funky jewelry. Maybe I’m clueless, but I’d like to have options, but have them all look like me. To have a style that is defined, that can be mixed-and-matched, that causes people to see something and say, “That looks like Amy!”
A few months ago, I stumbled upon the stellar Danielle LaPorte. I really cannot write enough good things about this lovely woman, and how absolutely amazing her writing, ideas and philosophies are—her writing is a daily dose of inspiration for me. While browsing her site, I saw a link to her book, Style Statement. I took a chance this month, and decided to order it.
I was hooked immediately. The best thing about this book is that it’s not just a book about clothes, and “what to wear.” Instead, it delves deeply into all sorts of issues: what to wear, what to do, how to be comfortable in your own skin. The journal prompts and suggestions are fantastic, and encourage you to think so deeply about who you are, and how to make your outside and inside match and be truly fabulous, and truly “you.” I feel like I came out on the other side knowing myself so much better, and feeling so much more at home in my own skin. I was encouraged to dream big, live by my own design, and create a personal style that matches the girl I feel I am inside.
Tomorrow, I’ll share my own personal Style Statement, and a bit more about my journey…but all I can say is that if you’re at all hoping to be more defined in the area of personal style? Than this is the book for you.