Yesterday, I wrote about the amazing book, Style Statement that I read recently. Carrie and Danielle, the authors of the book define your Style Statement this way:
Your Style Statement is the two words that define the true you. It’s a touchstone for making more powerful choices in your life – from your wardrobe to your living room, your relationships to your career plans. Your Style Statement is where your essence meets your expression.
Honestly, this sounded a bit fuzzy to me at first. As the book progresses, the value of having a well-defined style statement becomes exceedingly clear. There are journal prompts for nearly every area of your life: your clothes, your career, your relationship. You’re asked to define things in these areas: what works for you? What doesn’t? Basically, you figure out what makes you tick.
Once you’ve answered a series of soul-searching questions, some of which brought me to tears and opened up ideas I hadn’t considered, you create your Style Statement—a two-word phrase based on what Carrie and Danielle call the 80/20 method. The 80% represents your core word—the foundation of who you are, while the 20% rounds you out—basically allowing you to be your whole self.
My core word?
The book defines it this way: They love to nurture their inner life, other people, animals, nature, and ultimately good ideas. Happy to foster and promote the growth of others. They are natural leaders. Positively passionate about growing, learning, and teaching…They always have some pursuit or exploration underway. Cultivated considers all of life’s experiences positive and negative nutrients for the inner garden from which they reap their harvest.
This is an abridged definition, but when I read it, I got chills. If you know me, you know my endless “to-do” list of things to accomplish. While I definitely need to just relax sometimes, the truth is that I’m happiest when I’m growing or pursuing something. I like helping foster growth in others; hence my career choice and passion for teaching. The book also says that people with the word “cultivated” are “interesting to others simply because they are sincerely interested in the world around them.” This is so true for me—I love hearing people’s stories, ideas, feelings. I like knowing about the world I live in. Finally, I’ve packed a lot of experience in these 26 years—some good, some bad—and I couldn’t agree more that it’s THOSE experiences that help me nurture my inner life. Sure, they’re broken me, but they’ve helped me grow, and I can’t help but ultimately feel thankful for the ways that they’ve shaped me.
My 20% word?
Yessss. I need creativity, an outlet. The book states that the darkest days for creative types are ones when they feel uninspired. and that they must put things together their own way. I love this. I crave inspiration, a new way of doing things, and to put my own twist on life.
So, that’s me. Cultivated Creative.
Another friend who read this book stated that once she found her Style Statement, she felt like she’d come home. I couldn’t agree more. I love seeing myself with fresh eyes: that my curiosity and need to pursue new areas of growth aren’t negative, they’re exactly what makes me interesting. I like feeling good and recognizing that while I may not be the world’s best artist, the world’s most famous writer, that I can recognize and work on my own creative power. I like honoring my life’s experiences, positive and negative and seeing that they help nurture me.
Cultivated Creative: I love it. I feel like it describes me to a “t”. Finding this simple, two-word phrase has added so much excitement and inspiration to my life. Things that once appeared negative and as a flaw now feel powerful and exciting—I’ve re-shaped my views on who I am, and I’m trying to implement the changes I found myself wanting to make as a result of reading this book.
Find out tomorrow how I’m using this to transform my closet and my life…