No More Ignoring

Once upon a time, there was a girl who loved clothes.  She bought, and bought, and bought.  At one time, she was ridiculously skinny and then her closet really bulged with a million different outfits and ensembles.  Some of it was fun, and some of it was funky.  Her closet was full of skirts and dresses, and comfy t-shirts and jeans.  Nothing seemed to really match, but it was all cute.  Sort of.  But still, she bought, and bought, and bought.


Until things changed.  She got bigger.  She stopped dedicating money to shopping.  She started working in a different career where she needed to be comfy-casual, not cute and stylish.  And then?  She became a teacher, and somehow had to straddle the line between being cute, youthful and comfy, while also being adult and appropriate for work.  So, style became something on the back burner.  Clothes became whatever was clean, easiest, and semi-cute, instead of an expression of what she felt and wanted to be inside.

Um, guys?

This is about me.

It’s true.  I LOVE clothes.  I really do.  But let’s be real: who wants to have little, itty-bitty, size 2 clothes and then have to get big clothes?  NOT ME.  Also?  Being a massage therapist for a year?  Not exactly conducive to cute style—it’s all about comfort, baby.  And then teaching?  I refuse to wear denim dresses and wooden apple necklaces, thanks.  But, I am the youngest on campus and need to “establish my credibility” as an adult, dressed appropriately for the big-girl job I have.

So, my style has been a bit all over the place.  I’m not SO bad—I realize that this entry makes me sound like the perfect subject for “What Not To Wear.”  My friends assure me that nope, it’s not that bad.  Still, as I work to be a healthier me, I want to work on really creating my own personal style.  Am I alone here?  Isn’t it difficult to manage style in your twenties?  Sometimes, I look at my students, and think they look so cute—but I KNOW I need to differentiate myself from them.  Other times, I look at the “work clothes” and think, “That’s adorable!  But what about when I want to go out with my friends, or on a casual date?”  Most of all, I like to think I embody a lot of different things: I work in an environment that demands professionalism, but I also like art, music, bright colors and funky jewelry.  Maybe I’m clueless, but I’d like to have options, but have them all look like me. To have a style that is defined, that can be mixed-and-matched, that causes people to see something and say, “That looks like Amy!”

A few months ago, I stumbled upon the stellar Danielle LaPorte.  I really cannot write enough good things about this lovely woman, and how absolutely amazing her writing, ideas and philosophies are—her writing is a daily dose of inspiration for me.  While browsing her site, I saw a link to her book, Style Statement.  I took a chance this month, and decided to order it.

I was hooked immediately.  The best thing about this book is that it’s not just a book about clothes, and “what to wear.”  Instead, it delves deeply into all sorts of issues: what to wear, what to do, how to be comfortable in your own skin.  The journal prompts and suggestions are fantastic, and encourage you to think so deeply about who you are, and how to make your outside and inside match and be truly fabulous, and truly “you.”  I feel like I came out on the other side knowing myself so much better, and feeling so much more at home in my own skin.  I was encouraged to dream big, live by my own design, and create a personal style that matches the girl I feel I am inside.

Tomorrow, I’ll share my own personal Style Statement, and a bit more about my journey…but all I can say is that if you’re at all hoping to be more defined in the area of personal style?  Than this is the book for you.



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14 responses to “No More Ignoring

  1. ReinventingAmy

    i know exactly how you feel! in college- i had tons of cute “going out” clothes, but as soon as I graduated and stepped into a ‘real job’, my wardrobe went in the opposite direction. now my “going out” clothes consist of casual office wear, which is cute, but not “going out” worthy. Also- work attire (much like today) could be described as a cross between college wear and too casual office wear. (ie I’m sitting here in black pants a gray shirt a red hoodie. i realize it’s probably bad, but it’s freezing in the office- hence the hoodie). I’m having a wardrobe identity crisis!

  2. Yes!! I’m so excited to hear what yours is, I have my own- we can compare notes!

    And size two??! Holy! I don’t think it’s physically possible for me to be that little! But remember- ‘big’ is in your mind- I have friends who think I’m gorgeous but that if they were a size 6 they’d die. And I seem to be doing well! lol

    Don’t beat yourself up! Get rid of your clothes that don’t fit, and start looking for clothes that fit your body and your style statement

  3. You give the best blog links. I love it!

  4. kel

    Hence my love of dresses. Stylish, cute, and totally forgiving of cellulite.

  5. verybadcat

    I’m waiting patiently. I need to go from married style to single style without going too far into “you are nearly thirty and should not be wearing that”. 😉

  6. Juley

    You are describing me as well….I used to NEVER wear jeans, but I guess that is what weight gain does to a person!!!! What is funny is how much better I feel when I am wearing something expressive…
    I love reading your blog! You are a great writer!

  7. jill

    funny how this was on my mind recently.
    every school year, i imagine making a switch from reliable dress pants to a cute year of dresses, skirts, tights, and fun shoes.
    then the cheapskate in me talks me down and reminds me i have a closet full of fully-functioning clothes. being sensible sucks sometimes.
    i’m curious to hear the process of how you can define yourself and create a unique style – while still shopping at Target and without breaking the bank.
    maybe i can sneak a peek at the book you linked next time we get together. 🙂

  8. kori

    Girl I hear you. I look super young, so when I’m in court or whatever, I feel like I have to dress extra formal to look I’m over the age of fourteen. The problem is, I love color and funky little accessories and unexpected combinations but the legal world is just so boring and conservative.

  9. Oh, that book sounds awesome- I’ll have to check it out.

  10. Huh, I never thought people have “personal styles” — I just buy what I think it looks good, and like everyone else, I have different sets of work, everyday and going out clothes.

  11. Christina

    I am having the same crisis… it sucks! You have such a rockin’ personality my friend and I am sure it comes out in how you dress, and for sure, in the awesome jewlery you wear! I might have to check that book out!

  12. tabithablogs

    I am with ya there, my friend. I’m continually struggling with knowing how to dress “work-appropriate” but not stuffy, boring, or old-lady-ish. It probably doesn’t help that I was raised with a really conservative mother who freaked out if my bra strap showed or if I even MENTIONED the words “thong” or “strapless.” My husband has been slowly helping me to realize that I can dress young, sexy and still be perfectly appropriate — whether or not my mother feels the same way. 😛

    Of course, I’m not an inherently fashionable person, so you’ve got a one-up on me there. I’m sort of clueless, actually.

  13. I don’t have a style statement…. Pout. But I totally can relate to what you’re saying about being a confused 20-something.

  14. Yes! Work with what you got, not against it. There’s no good in trying to cram yourself into size six jeans if you’re a size twelve (or more) just to say you did it. No good at all. I’m really looking forward to seeing your personal style statement, too!

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